Life's about taking 'THE' risk...
This post is dedicated to a special friend of mine....!
There's this friend of mine who was and IS single (I'd say that s the way to go/be but she thinks o/w) has this great gang of friends who she thinks are absolute fun and are very nice people. Heck ya , they are! no two ways of saying it..but the complication arose when my friend being the person she is, unassuming, not reading between lines(when she had to!) met this guy in that special gang of friends...well, everything was just the same...everyone to her were just the same, but when this special someone gave her special attention, our Miss. Sensible chose to not see it!
And so as friends they all hung out and when they did, obviously my friend got to hang out with this other person who showed signs of liking her ...when she says this, she's smart enough to add a disclaimer and so the disclaimer goes 'May be not, May be he was just being nice and it was all just a fit of my imagination'! But here lets just assume this guy liked her. There came a point where she figured that she liked this guy too but the ego in her would nt let her show it, so instead our Miss. Whatever brushed off whatever signs/hints came her way..! But you know whats ridiculous, she'd want to talk to this guy, but she won't call, she'd want to hang out but she would nt go when they all went out together and back at home she'd crib abt it like a zillion times!
So she went on hoping to get together with this guy, but God only knows what she thought in that little pea sized brain of hers(Yes I blame it all on her!) she thought that magically some one will do something and it will all happen! Poor thing did nt realize if she wanted something to happen it was only HER who had to do something abt it..! or Maybe she for some strange reason she didnt realize that there s a whole wide world out there and if a guy doesnt see any kind of signs from a girl, he'd just probably move on to who's next!
She kept waiting, doing nothing abt her growing liking for this guy waiting for something to happen on its own and something did happen on its own!!!
To her 'major' disappointment, One day, she found out that this guy found someone else who'd apparently become the 'love' of his life and he the 'love' of that other girl! Whats sad is that my friend knows him longer than that other girl and she'd know him even a little better than that other girl! Now lot of people say time is not important to know/understand/like a person, but I beg to differ ! I STRONGLY think that only if you have hung out with someone and have known him for a while, you can be fairly sure u understand him or even like the person he is!
So even at this point none of her friends in that gang even have a clue that she liked this guy so seriously! Not even the guy..! May be he was also a little 'duh' coz he s also been blind to the subtle clues as my friend claims!
Now she finds it so difficult to hang out with her friends gang whenever this guy's around, coz she says she is not able to stop liking him just coz he belongs to some one else now!
Too bad I say! Indifference won't work, Subtle hints wont work! If you like some one, you have to just 'shamelessly' come right out and say it in the open, else, you'd better be prepared to sit back and fret abt it later and no one's going to be able to help! Well, some of us tried telling her that she should ATLEAST now, go tell this guy that she did like him, but the 'fair' person she is she does not want to do it because of two reasons, one being that she does not want to spoil the relationship this guy is into, two being, she'd rather live assuming that the guy liked her and it didnt happen coz of her feigning indifference than find out that everything was just a fit of her imagination! I do not care about the first reason that she gave me coz I totally believe in 'Everything's fair in love and war', I might sound mean but all I care for now is my friend but the second reason seemed reasonable!
But you know what I think is worse, if they both actually liked each other and the guy thought the girl was just being nice to him like she is to everyone else, and if she liked him and thought the same too!! Life's about taking the little risks...!
(Disclaimer: What I said above reflects what I think should be done, not what I 'd actually do should I find myself in the same situation...you get the idea right? ;)haha)
K..back to my friend..
Now, She feels bad whenever she's around this guy or whenever someone talks abt his new found 'girlfriend' but she feigns happiness! I feel bad for her but I am darn angry at the same time coz she brought this on herself!
A person like her deserves nothing less than the very best in life and if she thinks the very best for her was this person, she DEFINTELY deserved to have him! But its a little too late and I hope that she meets this one amazing person who d make her feel like all that happened happened for good!
..So to you my dear friend, you are the best and you deserve nothing less than the best, it shall happen to you sooner than you think!
There's this friend of mine who was and IS single (I'd say that s the way to go/be but she thinks o/w) has this great gang of friends who she thinks are absolute fun and are very nice people. Heck ya , they are! no two ways of saying it..but the complication arose when my friend being the person she is, unassuming, not reading between lines(when she had to!) met this guy in that special gang of friends...well, everything was just the same...everyone to her were just the same, but when this special someone gave her special attention, our Miss. Sensible chose to not see it!
And so as friends they all hung out and when they did, obviously my friend got to hang out with this other person who showed signs of liking her ...when she says this, she's smart enough to add a disclaimer and so the disclaimer goes 'May be not, May be he was just being nice and it was all just a fit of my imagination'! But here lets just assume this guy liked her. There came a point where she figured that she liked this guy too but the ego in her would nt let her show it, so instead our Miss. Whatever brushed off whatever signs/hints came her way..! But you know whats ridiculous, she'd want to talk to this guy, but she won't call, she'd want to hang out but she would nt go when they all went out together and back at home she'd crib abt it like a zillion times!
So she went on hoping to get together with this guy, but God only knows what she thought in that little pea sized brain of hers(Yes I blame it all on her!) she thought that magically some one will do something and it will all happen! Poor thing did nt realize if she wanted something to happen it was only HER who had to do something abt it..! or Maybe she for some strange reason she didnt realize that there s a whole wide world out there and if a guy doesnt see any kind of signs from a girl, he'd just probably move on to who's next!
She kept waiting, doing nothing abt her growing liking for this guy waiting for something to happen on its own and something did happen on its own!!!
To her 'major' disappointment, One day, she found out that this guy found someone else who'd apparently become the 'love' of his life and he the 'love' of that other girl! Whats sad is that my friend knows him longer than that other girl and she'd know him even a little better than that other girl! Now lot of people say time is not important to know/understand/like a person, but I beg to differ ! I STRONGLY think that only if you have hung out with someone and have known him for a while, you can be fairly sure u understand him or even like the person he is!
So even at this point none of her friends in that gang even have a clue that she liked this guy so seriously! Not even the guy..! May be he was also a little 'duh' coz he s also been blind to the subtle clues as my friend claims!
Now she finds it so difficult to hang out with her friends gang whenever this guy's around, coz she says she is not able to stop liking him just coz he belongs to some one else now!
Too bad I say! Indifference won't work, Subtle hints wont work! If you like some one, you have to just 'shamelessly' come right out and say it in the open, else, you'd better be prepared to sit back and fret abt it later and no one's going to be able to help! Well, some of us tried telling her that she should ATLEAST now, go tell this guy that she did like him, but the 'fair' person she is she does not want to do it because of two reasons, one being that she does not want to spoil the relationship this guy is into, two being, she'd rather live assuming that the guy liked her and it didnt happen coz of her feigning indifference than find out that everything was just a fit of her imagination! I do not care about the first reason that she gave me coz I totally believe in 'Everything's fair in love and war', I might sound mean but all I care for now is my friend but the second reason seemed reasonable!
But you know what I think is worse, if they both actually liked each other and the guy thought the girl was just being nice to him like she is to everyone else, and if she liked him and thought the same too!! Life's about taking the little risks...!
(Disclaimer: What I said above reflects what I think should be done, not what I 'd actually do should I find myself in the same situation...you get the idea right? ;)haha)
K..back to my friend..
Now, She feels bad whenever she's around this guy or whenever someone talks abt his new found 'girlfriend' but she feigns happiness! I feel bad for her but I am darn angry at the same time coz she brought this on herself!
A person like her deserves nothing less than the very best in life and if she thinks the very best for her was this person, she DEFINTELY deserved to have him! But its a little too late and I hope that she meets this one amazing person who d make her feel like all that happened happened for good!
..So to you my dear friend, you are the best and you deserve nothing less than the best, it shall happen to you sooner than you think!
posted by Indy at 10:48 AM
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